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They’ll Tell You to Get Help. They Won’t Get It Themselves. And the Help They’re Sending You To May Be Making Things Worse.

There is a statistic that has stayed with me. According to a study by Lifeway…

Coach MattJuly 1, 2026

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Counseling Marriage Marriage and Relationships Ministry Health Pastor Marriage

You Are Not Rebuilding the Old Marriage. You Are Building a New One.

Most couples who come to me after a betrayal are trying to get back to…

Coach MattJune 11, 2026

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Counseling Depression Leadership Pastoral Care Pastors

The Hidden Cost of People-Pleasing in Ministry (And How to Finally Lead Free)

People-pleasing isn't kindness — it's fear. If you're exhausted from trying to keep everyone happy,…

Coach MattJune 8, 2026

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Mental Health & Counseling Pastor Identity Pastoral Care Pastoral Health Pastors

Eight Signs You Need to Talk to Someone and Are Not Going To

You have helped a lot of people get the help they needed. You have made…

Coach MattJune 7, 2026

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Leadership Ministry Leadership Pastors

The Trust Problem: Why Only 30% of Americans Believe Pastors Are Honest (And What You Can Do About It)

There's a Gallup survey that comes out every year on honesty and ethics across professions.…

Coach MattJune 5, 2026

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Attachment Theory Coaching Pastoral Care Pastors Soul Care

The Secure Connector Pastor: What Healthy Leadership Actually Looks Like | Wired for Connection

Part of the Wired for Connection series — exploring attachment patterns and love styles in…

Coach MattJune 4, 2026

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Attachment Theory Coaching Pastoral Care Pastors Soul Care

The Controller Pastor: When Leadership Becomes Control | Wired for Connection

I want to start with something that might surprise you: the Controller is not the…

Coach MattJune 2, 2026

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Attachment Theory Coaching Pastoral Care Pastors Soul Care

The Victim Pastor: When Wounds Run the Ministry | Wired for Connection

Part of the Wired for Connection series — exploring attachment patterns and love styles in…

Coach MattMay 31, 2026

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Ministry and Technology

AI in the Pulpit: What Pastors Need to Know Before They Hand Over the Keyboard

87% of pastors now express support for using AI in some capacity in ministry. That…

Coach MattMay 29, 2026

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Attachment Theory Coaching Pastoral Care Pastors Soul Care

The Vacillator Pastor: When Ministry Runs on Highs and Crashes | Wired for Connection

He still talks about that Sunday. Not because anything dramatic happened. No crisis, no conflict,…

Coach MattMay 28, 2026

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They’ll Tell You to Get Help. They Won’t Get It Themselves. And the Help They’re Sending You To May Be Making Things Worse.

You Are Not Rebuilding the Old Marriage. You Are Building a New One.

The Hidden Cost of People-Pleasing in Ministry (And How to Finally Lead Free)

Eight Signs You Need to Talk to Someone and Are Not Going To

The Trust Problem: Why Only 30% of Americans Believe Pastors Are Honest (And What You Can Do About It)

The Secure Connector Pastor: What Healthy Leadership Actually Looks Like | Wired for Connection

The Controller Pastor: When Leadership Becomes Control | Wired for Connection

The Victim Pastor: When Wounds Run the Ministry | Wired for Connection

AI in the Pulpit: What Pastors Need to Know Before They Hand Over the Keyboard

The Vacillator Pastor: When Ministry Runs on Highs and Crashes | Wired for Connection

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