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Ministry Family Pastoral Health

The Pastor’s Wife Is Not Okay — And Everyone Knows It Except the Church

She's in the front row every Sunday. She smiles. She serves. And she's carrying something…

Coach MattJuly 10, 2026

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Pastoral Care Pastoral Health Pastors

The Shepherd Was Also a Sheep: The Theological Foundation of Pastoral Care

The word "pastor" is a farming word. It comes from the Latin for pasture. Before…

Coach MattJuly 8, 2026

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Pastoral Care Pastors

You Cannot Give What You Do Not Have: Building a Church Where Pastors and People Both Receive Care

Galatians 6:2 says bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. One…

Coach MattJuly 6, 2026

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Emotional Health Ministry Health Pastor Identity Pastoral Health

It’s Either Your Life or the Church: The Moment God Asked Me to Let Go

I remember praying one afternoon, four years into planting a church, genuinely trying to listen…

Coach MattJuly 3, 2026

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Ministry Health Pastors

They’ll Tell You to Get Help. They Won’t Get It Themselves. And the Help They’re Sending You To May Be Making Things Worse.

There is a statistic that has stayed with me. According to a study by Lifeway…

Coach MattJuly 1, 2026

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Ministry Leadership

You Are Not Your Church: The Identity Crisis Every Pastor Needs to See Coming

The question I ask almost every pastor I work with, somewhere in the first session,…

Coach MattJuly 1, 2026

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Ministry Health

The Church Was Healthy. I Wasn’t. What Nobody Tells You About Church Planting Burnout

Sometime in early 2004 I planted a church. I was twenty-four years old, newly married,…

Coach MattJune 29, 2026

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Congregational Resources Pastoral Care Pastoral Health Pastors

What Your Pastor Wishes You Knew But Will Never Say From the Pulpit

This post is a little different. I am not writing to pastors today. I am…

Coach MattJune 25, 2026

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Leadership Leadership & Self-Awareness Ministry Leadership Pastors

When Pastors Burn Out Doing Everything Except What They’re Called to Do

One of the questions I often ask pastors and ministry leaders through Your Caring Coach…

Coach MattJune 23, 2026

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Leadership Leadership & Self-Awareness Ministry Health Pastors

When Pastors Struggle in Silence: Mental Health, Ministry, and the Courage to Ask for Help

There is a sermon most pastors have preached at some point. It’s the sermon where…

Coach MattJune 18, 2026

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