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Ministry Trauma Pastoral Health Pastors

Church Hurt Is Real Even When You Are the Pastor

There is a kind of wound that pastors almost never talk about. Not because it…

Coach MattJuly 25, 2026

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Ministry Sustainability Pastoral Health

So You Want to Quit the Ministry. Before You Do, Read This.

I know where you are right now. You might be sitting in your car in…

Coach MattJuly 23, 2026

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Ministry Health Pastoral Care Pastors

Even Elijah Needed a Meal: The Biblical Case for Pastoral Self-Care

Let's be honest about what happens in 1 Kings 18 before we talk about what…

Coach MattJuly 22, 2026

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Ministry Health Pastors

They’ll Tell You to Get Help. They Won’t Get It Themselves. And the Help They’re Sending You To May Be Making Things Worse.

There is a statistic that has stayed with me. According to a study by Lifeway…

Coach MattJuly 1, 2026

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Counseling Marriage Marriage and Relationships Ministry Health Pastor Marriage

You Are Not Rebuilding the Old Marriage. You Are Building a New One.

Most couples who come to me after a betrayal are trying to get back to…

Coach MattJune 11, 2026

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Counseling Depression Leadership Pastoral Care Pastors

The Hidden Cost of People-Pleasing in Ministry (And How to Finally Lead Free)

People-pleasing isn't kindness — it's fear. If you're exhausted from trying to keep everyone happy,…

Coach MattJune 8, 2026

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Mental Health & Counseling Pastor Identity Pastoral Care Pastoral Health Pastors

Eight Signs You Need to Talk to Someone and Are Not Going To

You have helped a lot of people get the help they needed. You have made…

Coach MattJune 7, 2026

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Leadership Ministry Leadership Pastors

The Trust Problem: Why Only 30% of Americans Believe Pastors Are Honest (And What You Can Do About It)

There's a Gallup survey that comes out every year on honesty and ethics across professions.…

Coach MattJune 5, 2026

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Attachment Theory Coaching Pastoral Care Pastors Soul Care

The Secure Connector Pastor: What Healthy Leadership Actually Looks Like | Wired for Connection

Part of the Wired for Connection series — exploring attachment patterns and love styles in…

Coach MattJune 4, 2026

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Attachment Theory Coaching Pastoral Care Pastors Soul Care

The Controller Pastor: When Leadership Becomes Control | Wired for Connection

I want to start with something that might surprise you: the Controller is not the…

Coach MattJune 2, 2026

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