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The Secure Connector Pastor: What Healthy Leadership Actually Looks Like | Wired for Connection

Part of the Wired for Connection series — exploring attachment patterns and love styles in…

Coach MattJune 4, 2026

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The Controller Pastor: When Leadership Becomes Control | Wired for Connection

I want to start with something that might surprise you: the Controller is not the…

Coach MattJune 2, 2026

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The Victim Pastor: When Wounds Run the Ministry | Wired for Connection

Part of the Wired for Connection series — exploring attachment patterns and love styles in…

Coach MattMay 31, 2026

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Ministry and Technology

AI in the Pulpit: What Pastors Need to Know Before They Hand Over the Keyboard

87% of pastors now express support for using AI in some capacity in ministry. That…

Coach MattMay 29, 2026

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The Vacillator Pastor: When Ministry Runs on Highs and Crashes | Wired for Connection

He still talks about that Sunday. Not because anything dramatic happened. No crisis, no conflict,…

Coach MattMay 28, 2026

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The Avoider Pastor: When Strength Becomes a Wall

He’s probably one of the best preachers in his area. Composed. Competent. The guy other…

Coach MattMay 26, 2026

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You Were Made for This—But Not to Do It Alone: Breaking the Isolation Pattern (Part 2)

In Part 1 of this series, I talked about what Barna’s research confirms about pastoral…

Coach MattMay 25, 2026

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Ministry Health Pastors

The Loneliest Job in the Room: What Barna’s Data Confirms About Pastoral Isolation (Part 1)

I want to start with a number: 65. That is the percentage of pastors who…

Coach MattMay 25, 2026

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The Pleaser Pastor: When Saying Yes Is Really About Fear

Everyone loves this pastor. He’s warm, responsive, and almost always available. He remembers the names…

Coach MattMay 24, 2026

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Leadership Ministry and Technology

The Hybrid Church Is Here to Stay. Here’s What That Actually Means for Your Ministry

For the first couple years after the pandemic forced churches online, a lot of pastors…

Coach MattMay 23, 2026

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The Secure Connector Pastor: What Healthy Leadership Actually Looks Like | Wired for Connection

The Controller Pastor: When Leadership Becomes Control | Wired for Connection

The Victim Pastor: When Wounds Run the Ministry | Wired for Connection

AI in the Pulpit: What Pastors Need to Know Before They Hand Over the Keyboard

The Vacillator Pastor: When Ministry Runs on Highs and Crashes | Wired for Connection

The Avoider Pastor: When Strength Becomes a Wall

You Were Made for This—But Not to Do It Alone: Breaking the Isolation Pattern (Part 2)

The Loneliest Job in the Room: What Barna’s Data Confirms About Pastoral Isolation (Part 1)

The Pleaser Pastor: When Saying Yes Is Really About Fear

The Hybrid Church Is Here to Stay. Here’s What That Actually Means for Your Ministry

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