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The Loneliest Job in the Room: What Barna’s Data Confirms About Pastoral Isolation (Part 1)

I want to start with a number: 65. That is the percentage of pastors who…

Coach MattMay 25, 2026

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The Pleaser Pastor: When Saying Yes Is Really About Fear

Everyone loves this pastor. He’s warm, responsive, and almost always available. He remembers the names…

Coach MattMay 24, 2026

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The Hybrid Church Is Here to Stay. Here’s What That Actually Means for Your Ministry

For the first couple years after the pandemic forced churches online, a lot of pastors…

Coach MattMay 23, 2026

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Wired for Connection: What Attachment Theory Reveals About Every Pastor’s Heart

You became a pastor because you care about people. You show up when someone’s in…

Coach MattMay 22, 2026

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Processing the Wound: How to Write an Impact Letter When Your Spouse Betrayed You

Processing the Wound. An impact letter gives your pain a voice. Here's a guided framework…

Coach MattMay 17, 2026

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Leading From the Wound: How to Stay in Ministry While Your Marriage Is in Crisis

Leading From the Wound Can you keep leading when your marriage is in crisis? Honest,…

Coach MattMay 14, 2026

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Life Coaching Pastoral Care Pastors Purpose Soul Care

The Forgotten Wound: When the Pastor Is the One Who Was Betrayed

The Forgotten Wound. When the pastor is the one betrayed by a spouse, the wound…

Coach MattMay 11, 2026

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When Ministry Comes Home: Protecting Your Marriage While Leading a Church

The loneliest place in ministry can be your own home. Pastors give everything to their…

Coach MattMay 7, 2026

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When Infidelity Hits a Christian Marriage: Is Reconciliation Possible?

When Redemption Doesn’t Mean Reconciliation I didn’t expect the story to end this way. Like…

Coach MattMay 5, 2026

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Why ‘No’ Might Be the Most Pastoral Word You Learn to Say

Nobody taught us in seminary how to say no—but learning to set healthy boundaries in…

Coach MattMay 4, 2026

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